The 5 Love Languages is a book written by Dr. Gary Chapman. In the book there is an assessment for each person or couple to take. The premise for the book is that people understand acts of love differently and as a husband or wife, it is our duty to ensure we are showing our spouse we love them in a way that they will receive it. This video gives an overview of the 5 love languages. I will create a video for each individual language in upcoming videos. Until then…enjoy!!
ambition: a strong desire to do or to achieve something, typically requiring determination and hard work.
Depending on who you are speaking with, ambition can be a positive or negative thing. For women it is not usually considered a compliment. Ambition is sometimes tied to other A’ words such as, Aggressive, type A personality, Alpha-female, A-hole, etc. All which conjure up mental pictures of a person who will run you over if you’re in their way.
The opposite of ambition is not a pretty picture, itself. In fact the opposite of ambition is apathy, ambivalence, and lazy(yikes!). If you are an “in the closet” ambitious person I have a few tips inspire you to get out there and become the trailblazer that you were born to be!
- Surround Yourself with Other Ambitionistas: finding others to support you is imperative. Nothing will put out your fire like being an eagle hanging out with hens and chicken. Seek out meetup groups, join book clubs, or facebook groups with other women who are what you aspire to be or those on the journey with you. Make it a priority to attend seminars, workshops, or networking events and connect with women in your community.
- Mums the Word: It has been proven that sharing your ideas causes the energy and momentum to slow. I know when we have great ideas we want to share with others or brainstorm with our friends and loved ones. However, it is too easy to become disheartened if our enthusiasm is met with confusing looks or answered with “How in the world will you do that?” So, keep quiet until you have implemented at least the first three steps in your plan of action. By this time you should have some moving parts in action and some expected outcomes that you can brag on and say ” Look what I’ve done.”(insert Superman pose here)
- Switch Up Your Workout: Or if you don’t have one….start! The purpose of this step is to get comfortable challenging yourself. Nothing big comes with little effort. Also, pushing yourself in a workout builds your self confidence and self-esteem. When I completed Insanity for the first time, not only was I the fittest I’d ever been but I felt like bad-ass, too. I knew that I had completed something alot of people couldn’t. So hire the trainer, join the running group, buy the bootcamp groupon….just get out there and shake things up a little!
- Reward Yourself: To ensure there is something that keeps you motivated when the times get a little rough…..reward yourself with a big juicy gift to yourself! Book a hotel for the summer to ensure you take that trip! Start shopping online for those super expensive heels you always talk yourself out of buying. As adults we don’t have too many people offering us prizes to do anything uncomfortable. Be your own cheerleader! Cheer yourself on and give yourself prizes!! Why not?! You deserve it!
In closing, If you are tired of watching the world go by and not living up to your fullest potential the time is now to begin implementation. You don’t have to know everything but you know and have enough resources to begin NOW!
Sherisse Forrest is a certified women’s leadership coach and is crazy about seeing people grow up to be who they were born to be! She eats, drinks, and sleeps professional development and presents trainings and workshops on People Skills, Communication, and other things you didn’t learn in college!
In my last blog I discussed how I began working from home years ago…before it was a buzzword and scams began. If you missed it go back and check it out. Now there are definitely pros and cons to working from home. I would say the good outweighs the bad, though. Here are my top 3 Tips to work/life balance as a Work at Home Mom/WAHM especially if you have a toddler.
1. Wake up at 430am.
She rises while it is yet night…… Prov.31:15
I know I know I know. Getting up before the sun is PRODUCTIVE MOM 101. But it is imperative to get up and get something accomplished and/or organized before the day(madness) begins. In fact, this helps set the tone for the rest of your day. I’ve found that I am better able to handle the day if I have already had my coffee, worked out, had quiet time w/GOD and checked a few things off of my list for the day. Waking up early is the Breakfast of Champions!
If you have children who aren’t school age this is also form of self-care.
2. Part Time Nanny or Mother’s Morning Out Programs
…..and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens. Prov.31:15b
Huh? Doesn’t that defeat the purpose? No. My kiddos usually went to half days at private schools(9a-1 for 3-5 days a week) or just recently, we began using nanny services a few days a week. If you have little ones you know as well as I do they need attention, interaction and instruction. Depending the nature of your work, you may require silence for phone calls. I had a friend who was a virtual assistant to speakers, and once she hired a college student who lived in her neighborhood, she was able to accomplish so much she signed on more clients. However, if your baby gets sick, you’re still available to them and you don’t have to miss work or ask for time off.
3. Create a Schedule
Yes, there is freedom in scheduling your days and week.
Scheduling, particularly block scheduling, keeps your mind from drifting to that pile of laundry that needs folding, or checking emails then social media then…..down the rabbit hole of distraction. Creating a weekly schedule allows for you to better balance your duties for all the roles a woman has.
I work 3 days during the summer and 4 when school is in. I schedule in after school practices, girl scouts, drama club, and now driving my oldest to work. During the school day I do all of my speaking, coaching calls, and blogging/vlogging.
Transitioning from working mom to work at home mom has it’s kinks but it has turned out to be worth it, for me. I do miss having coworkers and after work hangouts but its a good tradeoff getting my kiddos off the bus and never being in a rush or rush-hour.
Alot of people are inspired and puzzled by the fact that my husband and I both work from home. As, parents to four kids (a high-schooler, middle-schooler, 3rd grader and 2 year old) we learned early on traditional child care wouldn’t work for our family. We didn’t always know our current lifestyle was possible, but we knew it was mandatory, for us.
HOW I BEGAN
My beginning into the WAHM experience was not what most expected. I basically had no other choice; as a mom with my two oldest were 7, and 4 and I had just given birth to our 3rd daughter. My husband worked close to our home but was still in office most of the day. I had been doing small corporate and nonprofit event planning contracts but they were short term and not consistent. In despair, I prayed and asked GOD what His will was in this situation. I know that whenever it seems that everything I am trying to do isn’t working despite my best effort, I’m out of His will. Not that when you’re in the will of God things are easy-peasy, but there is grace & peace flowing through the situation. I was lacking both of those.
I began praying asking God for His will then later on during the prayer I confessed that I was pushing my own agenda and then verbally submitted to desiring His will over mine. Then…the peace showed up. I didn’t get an immediate answer but I DID feel that peace that surpasses all understanding. Within a few days…I had my first dream from GOD. I saw myself on a stage speaking. IT FREAKED ME OUT! As a Pastor’s kid, I thought He was calling me to preach….and I was NOT agreeing to that LOL! When I awoke, I felt prompted to write the vision, and as I did, the Spirit began to flow through me and He gave me His will for me, though when I reread it I had no idea how it pertained to me. That same day, I also felt led to write my ideal job, what I wanted it to be, how much pay, and at the end i kept hearing in my spirit: Write Work at Home. I questioned it, but wrote it down anyway. Then I prayed over it, and left it at that.
HOW IT CAME TO BE
I would say within 3-5 days of writing that prayer over the job…I was searching Craigslist for jobs in the nonprofit section, because this was where I had most of my work experience, but for some reason I wound up in the hospitality section. One of the first post for the day was “Event Coordinator/Manager for Venue.” I was an event planner so I checked it out. It sounded perfect, almost like I had written the post myself, then as I got to the bottom it read ‘must be independent worker, and have a smartphone and laptop available as only required to come into office during you events.” My eyes almost popped out of my head! I was in total SHOCK. God has blown my mind lots of times but this is one of my most memorable moments of mind being blown! Well, I applied, recieved a call within 2 days, interviewed same week, offered the next week and was hired. This job was the foundation to my current business as a professional speaker. It was here that I was opened up to the world of seminars, coaching, workshop leaders, professional development trainers, and corporate events. This all was what that dream that I wrote down was telling me; how I would transform others, and be a well-known & popular speaker, and my events would change worlds.
THE DESIRES OF YOUR HEART
I heard a minister exegete that scripture as saying that GOD will literally give you His desires in your heart, meaning he will deposit the desire in you so that He can give it to you. Something I didn’t believe was possible, I was lead to ask for, and then received because I dared to ask. This also brings to mind the scripture “Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,…” Eph. 3:20.
THINGS TO PONDER
Are you willing to ask God what His will is for your life. ministry, or family? Do you believe that He will have your best interest at heart when He gives you His desires for you? Can you trust even when it doesn’t make sense to you intellectually?