After putting into practice the 3 confidence tips I mentioned in Part 1, let’s discuss the other signs help you appear self-confident.
One example is the subtle indication of ownership. (Disclaimer: I define ownership here as: the state or quality of being an owner. I don’t mean acting as if you own people. Just wanted to clear that up!) Did you know that leaning on a wall or door frame is a surefire way to communicate self-confidence. Not leaning as in bored, but as in “Welcome! I’ve been waiting for you”
There are many ways you can subtly imply ownership, but the most common is touching something. If you put your arm across the back of the sofa or chair, it creates the impression that you feel almost as though you own that thing.
For example: I remember once interviewing at NBC in Atlanta for a Marketing/Public Relations position. I walked into the interviewers office and sat in her chair, by mistake of course! She was so shocked and taken aback, she mentioned my confidence all throughout the interview. I secretly was SUPER embarrassed but I just went with the flow. She liked that I brought ownership & confidence into the room, and it worked in my favor. I wound up getting the job! She kept mentioning that I might be CEO someday!
The same goes for touching people.
Studies show that touching someone on the shoulder can make you seem much more confident – especially if it is done in an encouraging and non-threatening way!
If you want to make a great first impression, next time you meet someone, shake their hand and touch their arm or hand with your free hand, look them in the eye and smile. You should especially greet them this way if they’re a higher pay grade then you. They will remember your confidence and boldness and become curious about you.
Remember: body language is best when read as a whole.
It’s not so much a matter of each individual aspect of your body language that will convey a sentiment, as it is the entire package.